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Sample empathic question to connect with another:
Add the value you are guessing to the blank

Example: If the person that you are listening to is angry about a situation, confused or may want more understanding of what was said, ask an empathic question. The guess is for understanding.

Are you wanting more understanding what was said?
or Understanding this situation is important to you?

Now you try to offer an empathic guess for a situation you experienced and offer empathy back.
Use the list below for the blank..
1: Are you wanting __________ ?
2: So you value ___________ _?
3: ________ is important to you?

Values / Needs List

CONNECTION
Acceptance
Affection
Appreciation
Belonging
Cooperation
Communication
Closeness
Community
Companionship
Compassion
Consideration
Consistency
Empathy
Inclusion
Intimacy
Love
Mutuality
Nurturing
Respect/Self-respect
Safety
Security
Stability 

Connection cont.
Support
To know and be known
To see and be seen
To understand and be understood
Trust
Warmth

HONESTY
Authenticity
Integrity
Presence

PEACE
Beauty
Communion
Ease
Equality
Harmony
Inspiration
Order

MEANING
Awareness
Celebration of life
Challenge
Clarity
Competence
Consciousness
Contribution
Creativity
Discovery
Efficacy
Effectiveness
Growth
Hope
Learning
Mourning
Participation
Purpose
Self-expression
Stimulation
To matter
Understanding

AUTONOMY
Choice
Freedom
Independence
Space
Spontaneity
Ease

PHYSICAL WELL-BEING
Air
Food
Movement/exercise
Rest/sleep
Safety
Shelter
Touch
Water

PLAY
Joy
Jocularity
Humor

 

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