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Homepage Workshops Mentor Program Feelings Lists Needs Lists Quick Facts Online Store Books - Teleclasses CD's - Videos Short Videos More learning about Compassionate Communication Articles: Compassionate Communication Topics & Tips Instant Calm Exercise       Try FREE! World's Smartest Shopping Cart system.	Sample empathic question to connect with another: Add the value you are guessing to the blank Example: If the person that you are listening to is angry about a situation, confused or may want more understanding of what was said, ask an empathic question. The guess is for understanding. Are you wanting more understanding what was said? or Understanding this situation is important to you? Now you try to offer an empathic guess for a situation you experienced and offer empathy back. Use the list below for the blank.. 1: Are you wanting __________ ? 2: So you value ___________ _? 3: ________ is important to you? Values / Needs List CONNECTION Acceptance Affection Appreciation Belonging Cooperation Communication Closeness Community Companionship Compassion Consideration Consistency Empathy Inclusion Intimacy Love Mutuality Nurturing Respect/Self-respect Safety Security Stability  Connection cont. Support To know and be known To see and be seen To understand and be understood Trust Warmth HONESTY Authenticity Integrity Presence PEACE Beauty Communion Ease Equality Harmony Inspiration Order MEANING Awareness Celebration of life Challenge Clarity Competence Consciousness Contribution Creativity Discovery Efficacy Effectiveness Growth Hope Learning Mourning Participation Purpose Self-expression Stimulation To matter Understanding AUTONOMY Choice Freedom Independence Space Spontaneity Ease PHYSICAL WELL-BEING Air Food Movement/exercise Rest/sleep Safety Shelter Touch Water PLAY Joy Jocularity Humor   Back to Homepage Goodfriends Communication 805 898-9336 Rick@rickgoodfriend.com This list was developed from www.cnvc.org To Receive weekly Communication Tips Please fill out this form. City, State and Country are optional, Name E-mail City,State, Country This information will not be shared with any other service and you may opt out at any time Goodfriends Communication info@walkyourtalk.org 1734 Bath St. Santa Barbara, Ca. 93101 805 898-9336	Simple Tips to Add Ease and Healing to Your Life! 102 simple & effective communication tips written by Rick Goodfriend Click Here   Bring Harmony and Inner Peace to Your Life! New CD "Manifesting Instant Calm and Inner Peace" Click Here